This is my sister Carrie Bumgarner’s thoughts on the passing of our mother, Mary Bumgarner. She originally posted this to FaceBook and asked me to capture it here so it may last.
The photo is of Mom & Dad from, if I remember correctly, 1952. It was taken in California as they journeyed West prior to going to the Far East for Dad’s stint in the MASH 8063rd in Korea.
As many of you may know from the wonderful tributes by my sister and brother posted earlier, my dear mother, Mary Heyssel Bumgarner, passed away on Sunday. While I could add to the tributes, what I really want to say is thank you. She gave us an invaluable gift at the end. She “knew” she would not last until Christmas so she called us calmly and told us to come home. We did and her whole family was with her for Thanksgiving. She gave us the time to say “I love you,” “Thank you” and “Goodbye.” We laughed, we cried, we reminisced, we read poetry, and we philosophized. We actually got to know each other better. She gave us invaluable quality time. It made it both easier and harder to let her go.
A true force has left this earth but not our hearts or our minds. I leave you with one of her and her mother’s favorite poems:
There is a destiny that makes us brothers
None goes his way alone
All that we send into the lives of others
Comes back into our own
I care not his temples or his creeds
One thing hold firm and fast
That into his fateful heap of days and deeds
The soul of man is cast.
Thank you mom, I will miss you and love you forever.